Wann spricht man denn noch von gesundem Stress, und gibt es den überhaupt?
Interview Alexandra Karr-Meng Dieses Buch hilft gegen Stress
Es ist das nunmehr vierte Buch der Neunkircherin Alexandra Karr-Meng, Systemische Beraterin, Coach, Trainerin. Aktuell ist der zweite Band in der Reihe „Professional und stark in der Kita“ erschienen. Beim ersten Mal ging es um Resilienz, jetzt um das große Thema „Stress“. Ein Thema, das keinem fremd ist. Und ein Mitmachbuch, nicht nur für Kita-Mitarbeiter.
Alexandra Karr-Meng im Garten mit ihrem neuen Buch. Foto: Meng
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